Letting go of the belief that everything has to be controlled, for our survival,
is a major transformation.
Holding a clear intention without resistance – that’s when synchronicities happen. You think about something and you get a call or a visit or it shows up on TV. It’s like when you’re really close to someone and they say what you’re thinking. Only in this case, you’re really close to the universe, and it’s “saying” what you’re thinking.
It’s happening all the time, but too often we don’t like the idea that what the universe is delivering is what we were thinking!
We don’t want to admit to ourselves that the experiences we are having match how we’ve been feeling (and not the other way around). Or that the experiences match what we believe or what we’ve come to expect. In essence, everything is right here, in this moment, but your attention is what brings it into being. Your attention brings it into your personal experience. You filter out the other stuff.
The pattern is so strong that it is not even conscious. We have patterns of thought that we have been reinforcing for a very long period of time. Because of that, they are on autopilot. You don’t have to do anything to activate them. Even though you think you are looking at something objectively and seeing the bigger picture, there is still a part of your psyche that is invested in having it be the way it’s always been. When you listen to the conclusions you’ve come up with, the hidden assumptions, these are the beliefs that prevent you from having it be different. The mind is very powerful. Whatever you say about something is what you are giving power to.
What are some of the benefits of changing your mind, instead of trying to change everything else? You don’t have to do such heavy lifting!
A lot of people think that they can get rid of a part of themselves. You can’t get rid of any aspect of yourself. What you can do is let go of resistance so that pure Energy can flow again.
You can feel it. It’s like you have this river of energy inside you but it’s being obstructed by something. When you do the movements and the breath, you release resistance, and then energy just starts flowing freely and easily. And the more you let go, the more you get out of your head, get out of the cognitive stuff of trying to figure the river out and trying to control it, then it’s able to flow freely.
And when you let go of resistance, you are taking in Love – you are literally taking in pure Life Energy.
Abraham-Hicks says there is only pure positive Energy, and you are either allowing it or you’re resisting it. The breath and movements we do in Kai Chi Do are all about getting into that state of allowing.
“It’s not what’s coming at you. It’s what’s coming from you.”
I had a breakthrough this week, and things have been running very smoothly since. Even when things are breaking down, they’re getting back on track easily and quickly – which is just giving me more evidence of how the universe responds when we change our own thoughts and beliefs.
I mentioned that we had a bit of shock a few weeks back when we found out about a “clerical error with financial consequences.” Here’s the amazing part: we’re getting our check back.
But there’s even more to this turn around than bucks! The money was just the proof.
Let me preface this story by saying we believe that anything is possible. We’ve also learned over the years that the thoughts we have when we’re in the midst of a powerful emotion put hooks in us. We believe them – unquestionably. We live from them. But we don’t even see them.
We know those thoughts become beliefs that can be limiting or useful – it’s our choice. It’s all in the thoughts we think, the meanings we make. And how intensely we feel it. The more intensely we feel it – the more charge it has for us – the more Energy it attracts.
When we got a certified letter three weeks ago from a state government agency we worked with several years ago, saying that we were overpaid and they wanted their money back (or else…) You can believe we had some strong emotions! Throughout all of the phone calls that followed – all of the run around trying to understand what they thought was overpaid, and all of conflicting instructions we received about how to go about making the repayment within the 15 days they allowed – we were making declarations about what we want and deserve to have in our lives.
I silently screamed at the Universe, with intense clarity and focus (pain has a way of doing that) – “We deserve good things!” I screamed it again and again in my mind.
And then I sat and listened. I sat in neutral and watched the rushing sensation of emotions coursing through my body, in my blood. I told the Universe, “I’m willing to listen.”
And an insight came. I realized that – until now – I’d been looking for something outside me to tell me what I am worth or deserve – some kind of universal seal of approval.
And what I saw – what I heard the Universe respond – was: We decide our worth. We decide!
The Universe just responds to our decision.
We don’t have to prove or justify or cause our worth. We’ve already been deemed worthy by Life. We all deserve good things in our lives – not because we are good, and definitely not because we are better – but because we have the power to decide. Our worth is the worth of Life Energy. Our worth is our birthright.
“We deserve good things!” was my way of saying to the Universe: I’m done with thinking myself unworthy, undeserving, with doubting my worth and living in fear of things that I thought could hurt me. I’m done with expecting bad things to happen. I’m done with thinking someone else, anyone else, determines my worth. I can feel the power in my gut – the power we all share – that point where we are connected to everything, connected to the power that is bigger than us – the power that is beyond the mind and comes just from being alive.
And I literally wrote , in detail, all the good things we deserve – because we’ve decided to have them in our lives.
What we want, what we declare – It’s done!
What is closed, what we are ready to put behind us – It’s done!
We’re ready now!
A few days later, the state agency called me and said they’d made a mistake. They said the original certified letter they sent us was an error and they wanted us to stop payment on the check we sent them – which is a miracle in itself. Have you ever heard of a government agency admitting they made a mistake? And refusing to take your money?!
But the real thrill – beyond getting our money back and being reassured that we had not done anything wrong – was the evidence of how the universe responds to our intentions – the proof that we really are powerful creators! We decide!
Any time you have a strong emotion you can choose to use that feeling to take a new stand. It’s an opportunity to make a powerful declaration about how you want things to be and what you believe. It’s a moment of acute focus and exquisite clarity. A moment of intense power. You can either resist that power or you can direct it. Don’t be afraid of the intensity of your emotions – That’s where your power lies. Be a witness to the feeling. Ride it. Focus it. Direct it.
The strength you will feel in your belly – the certainty you will feel – when you make a clear declaration to the Universe with intense emotion, is the strength that flows from your decision. Any threat you feel at that point makes your determination stronger, your desire stronger, your certainty and clarity firmer.
So the next time you’re feeling anxious or frightened or angry or frustrated or lonely or bored or ecstatic, make a powerful declaration to the Universe about what you want and deserve. Then listen for the answer. Listen to what needs to shift. Listen for the thought that’s been holding you back, and be ready to make use of that insight – to make a powerful decision, a new belief. That’s your breakthrough! Then watch how the Universe responds!
Few people understand that what you focus on becomes part of your experience. And the more you focus on it, the bigger it gets.
Most people focus on the struggle – pushing away what they don’t want to try to get more of what they do want, focusing on problems in order to “resolve” them. We see quite a lot of that in traditional approaches to recovery and healing.
It just doesn’t make sense to try to get rid of something by focusing your attention on it. The more you engage your mind with the problem, the more you are stuck there – It’s like Tar-Baby.
Instead of trying to fix the “illness” – talking about it, examining it, unraveling it, regretting it, reliving it – we encourage people to focus their time and energy on building a new kind of life – practicing a healthy lifestyle, healthy thinking, healthy relationships, finding a sense of purpose. Build up those things and the symptoms fade. They get replaced with health.
Is it work? Absolutely.
But focusing on what you want is a more direct route because it puts the power of momentum on your side.
And it feels better!
Take a minute and ask yourself – for whatever problem you are facing – what focus will bring healing into your experience?
Okay. So the truth is: We sometimes fumble when we try to describe our work. It’s sort of like fixing the unfixable and that can be hard to explain.
It’s unfixable because you don’t need fixing. And we think that’s a good place to begin when you want things to be better. Begin by being good enough. And powerful. And full of worth. And stronger than you’ve imagined. And more brilliant than you’ve hoped.
And it doesn’t mean you’re broken just because you want to improve your life. Yes. We’re all a bit messy and maybe even a little bruised. And we’ve all done things we wish we hadn’t – and don’t want to do again. And there are times when we need some help with getting our lives to line up with who we really are.
So the problems may need fixing. And the truth is, how you feel is telling you a lot about your relationship with Life. So we help you find your way to feeling good and then even better than that – by finding your way to yourself. And then any fixing you want to do gets a whole helluva lot easier. You’ll figure it out once you have a little confidence in your compass.
We’ve helped a whole lot of people in their recovery. All different kinds of recovery. You may have symptoms, but we don’t believe that any symptom defines who you are. We think you’re looking for something. So we offer some principles to guide you.
And the truth is, if you want to change your life, the one thing you need more than anything else, is practice.
We support you in practicing what you want, not what you don’t want.
Okay. So the truth is: We help people build relationships. Only we don’t work on the mechanics of your relationships with other people. We teach dynamics so you can do the mechanics. And, when it comes to relationships, we think you can both have what you want.
We help you go deep before you go wide. We know that you have to be authentic and find your own balance before you can have balanced, authentic relationships.
And the truth is, the people you want to have in your life actually like you better when you’re real, as much as that may surprise you. So we help you discover and cultivate the relationships you have with your self and with Life, and then extend that connection outwards to others. And not the other way around (which is to say that it doesn’t work to try to make a connection with others and then try to live up to it. It’ll just make you lonely and fearful.)
And we think you should stop listening to some people. You know the ones.
And okay. So the truth is: We don’t talk in keywords. We don’t know what a retweet is (but we think we like it!). We aren’t search engine optimized. And if you found us, it’s probably because you know someone who loves us.
We don’t know how to package ourselves. If we have a niche, we don’t know about it. And we’re done with looking out there for it.
The truth is, we think differently than most people. Words seem a little upside down and the best thing isn’t always the logical. Energy may be invisible but it runs the show.
We tell you what works for us. But if we don’t always know how to describe what it is we do, it’s because we’re not Doing – We think it’s more useful to empty ourselves so that you can get the message you need in the moment, without us calculating or judging or bending you or the message. So that you can pull what you need to hear through us, without us interfering.
We bring a presence that you need to feel safe enough to trust yourself. And we hold a clear intention – to facilitate connection. 3 connections, to be exact. Those are the relationships we help you build – the connection to yourself, your Source, and to others. We may not know how to describe what connection is but, the truth is, you know it when you feel it. And that’s our passion.