How can you use a conflict or upset as something that will benefit your own healing process? Use the strength of your emotion to fuel change. You can feel the power in your emotion. Use that power for good.
Everything that we’re projecting as far as the way people are, the way situations are, is based on our previous experiences and the conclusions we’ve drawn about how life is. It’s all based on how it’s been, how it was before. We really never get the opportunity to fully appreciate and experience how it is.
Your beliefs influence your experiences. Your beliefs create expectations. You brought your beliefs into your upset or conflict. They may even have contributed to the upset. They influence how you behave. They influence how you interpret the behavior of others. They define the limits of what you believe is possible.
But in the present moment, you get to choose. Knowing what you don’t want gives you the chance to decide what you want, to declare it clearly – to yell it at the Universe if you have to. I’ve had this experience in the past and now I know, I don’t want that! I want this instead. I want this!
You know you’re stuck in the past when your beliefs are interfering with what you want and desire. Your beliefs are so very real to you. But even when you’ve formed beliefs that take you out of alignment with what you want, even when your past experiences weren’t what you hoped for, even when you wander, you can still find your way home – you can still find your way into a clean new perspective in the present moment. You have beliefs – They don’t have you.
No matter how bad the upset, you can find a thought that will move you in the direction of what you want – move you in the direction of the life you hope for. No matter how bad the upset you can find a meaning that serves you.
Quiet your mind for a moment. Withdraw your attention from how things are. And imagine how you want them to be.
Create a belief that is in alignment with that vision.
A belief is just a thought that feels true to you. Reach for a thought that feels true to you and is ALSO in alignment with what you want. A thought that moves you forward instead of taking you back. A thought that feels better, that gives you relief, that allows you to take a deep breath. A NEW THOUGHT.
Finding a new set of beliefs is not the same as being hopeful. It’s not making wishes and hoping they’ll come true.
Finding a new belief is a statement of your truth – without contradiction, without doubt, without justification. Choose it wisely. Invest your energy in beliefs that open new possibilities.
You decide. No one else. You decide your worth. No one else, no force outside you, holds that power. Your beliefs are your declaration to the Universe. Your thoughts, your beliefs, define your intentions.
Take action. But bring your beliefs into alignment with your goals first. Then you take action from a place of inspiration, not desperation.
The value of upset is twofold – That upset is generating pure raw emotional power and you’ve also got absolute clarity about what you want. The bigger the upset, the bigger the clarity and the more intense the emotion! You decide how you want to use that power. You can feed old beliefs, the same beliefs that brought you here. Or you can use that power to fuel your new creation.
Special thanks to by Angela Marie for her “Dancing on the Volcano” illustration on Flickr.
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