It’s a big revelation when you discover that you are the only one who can make you happy. It takes more than another person to satisfy loneliness. In fact, being with others can make you feel even more lonely. Other people may just provide a distraction from the need that your loneliness is communicating to […]
Category: Mental Health
Have yourself a breakthrough
“It’s not what’s coming at you. It’s what’s coming from you.” I had a breakthrough this week, and things have been running very smoothly since. Even when things are breaking down, they’re getting back on track easily and quickly – which is just giving me more evidence of how the universe responds when we […]
What dose are you taking?
When Shanti was little, we tried to train ourselves: Scold in a whisper (much easier for Charles than for me), and celebrate her successes like we were partying on New Years Eve. How often we praised her and recognized what she was doing right was important, but just as important was how big a dose […]
How to treat the Back of your Mind
I work with many people who have chronic back pain and we talk a lot about avoiding pain triggers – no twisting, no heavy lifting, use good body mechanics. Recently, one of my clients told me that he had to avoid triggers of his mind. He was talking about how he avoids depression and stays […]
Your glass isn’t half full or half empty
A few years ago, an engineer I was coaching told me, “The glass isn’t half full or half empty – It’s the wrong size container.” I love it. Some years ago I was getting some help the past few weeks from Ray Ortega, a web engineer. We were preparing to make a few upgrades to […]